First date nerves
It's natural to be nervous about meeting someone for the first time, especially for a first date. You may not have been on a date for a while, you may have previously been in a long term relationship, life commitments or career goals may have pushed back the priority of dating. Let's face it, dating can sometimes feel very daunting!
Dating is almost like an interview and you are the interviewee! Getting to know someone for the first time involves questions; finding out about this person, who they are, what their interests are, what elements determine that you both 'click'? You almost feel like you are put on a pedestal to be judged. All you have to do is remember that the person you are going on a date with, is probably, (definitely) feeling the same!
Getting ready is generally where the nerves start to kick in, all of a sudden making you question aspects of who you are as an individual, wondering the whole time ... "will they like me?". Everyone wants to be accepted, it's human nature to want to feel wanted. Even if you're the most confident person in the world, a
little nerves will tickle that confidence, but that's ok.
There are a handful of super-human people on our planet that don't let other people's opinions and judgement effect them. They are who they are, and if others don't accept them, they move on, so high five to them! But the majority of us do let other people's opinions get the better of us and its only natural. The easiest thing to do in life is just be you, as you are. You were born you, not Susan or John down the road, so be confident in yourself.
Get ready for a date the same way you would if you were meeting your friends. You don't have to put huge pressure on yourself. Most people fall into a sense of feeling like they have to change, or improve who they are. This is not the case.
First of all, buy or wear something that makes you feel good, something that makes you feel comfortable being you. Try lots of outfits, get an idea of what looks good and what makes you feel great. Clothes are an excellent way to express your personality and who you are. If you feel good, your confidence level will rocket.
While you get ready, pour yourself a glass of wine, listen to music that makes you feel good, music that lifts your mood. It's an instant way to relax and help you prepare for your date.
One thing that may have you feeling anxious is ... "will the conversation flow?" Maybe think of a few topics to discus beforehand, it's always good to have something as a back up if an awkward moment of silence pops up. Holidays? Pets? Family? Interests? anything is better than silence!
Experts out there will all say the same thing, 'confidence is one the most attractive quality in a person'. If you are confident in yourself, if you feel good about yourself, it really shows and the nerves will settle. There are lots of tips and tricks out there to help you gain more confidence and to help suppress those dating nerves, but here at Cupid in the City , we help build that confidence for you.
Lastly, just remember that the whole time you're getting ready for your date, there's someone else getting ready for it too, with the same thoughts and questions running through their mind. Be optimistic and feel excited, because this is exciting and could be the start of an amazing relationship!