Learning how to fall in love : 8 tips

Here are eight tips on how to fall in love:

1. Don’t be afraid to be your authentic self. One of the best things about falling in love is sharing your true self with another person. Those qualities that make you a little quirky shouldn’t be something you hide the person for you will love your quirks as part of what makes you your unique self.

• Get to know yourself.Take some time for introspection and figure out who you are and what is truly important to you in life. Make a list of your values, interests, and goals for the future.
• Journal your thoughtsOnce you know who you are if it also important to be aware of some of the thoughts that may come up and may be holding you back from really connecting with someone. Get to know your thoughts and feelings and notice if there are any patterns with your moods, and what affects those..

4. Be open about communicating your needs.It can be hard to express our needs without feeling needy. But it is important you are aware of what you need in a relationship and being able to share this with someone you are developing a relationship with. Expressing your expectations, and showing acknowledgment and appreciate when you feel your needs are being met.
5. Be open to exploring a connection with someone with some different interests  Love is all about new experiences. Sometimes we can get stuck in the thinking the ideal person has exactly the same interests and hobbies as you however It’s about learning and growing together. So, don’t be afraid to try new things with your partner. You never know; you might end up loving it, or look at it this way, it is also healthy for them to have some of their own interests and hobbies, while you enjoy yours. As long as you can find somethings you enjoy doing together. It’s healthy for you to both spend time apart doing things that you enjoy as well as time together. You can explore different places together, even if you have both being to the place before, its about creating new memories and experiences together which make it special.
6. Take time for yourself.It’s attractive when you have your own passions, and interests, and also just take time for self care. It is  important to remember that you are an individual and need time for yourself. Even in a relationship, you should still make time for your interests and hobbies. Don’t forget about the things that make you happy or don’t stop doing them because it’s not an interest of your partner.

• Schedule some “me” time.Schedule some time each week when you can do things you enjoy. Try reading, going for a walk, or taking an exercise class. Book a spa day or go for dinner with friends.
• Do something that makes you happy.Find things that make you happy, and make time to indulge in the things that make you happy, such as listening to music, dancing, cooking your favorite food, or reading. It’s up to you! Make a conscious effort to enjoy the little things in your life.

7. Spend time with loved ones. It’s important you maintain a support group outside of your relationship, and not to neglect these relationships. While its natural to be in a bubble when you are getting closer to someone. Make it a priority to reach out to family and friends, and start to invite the person you are dating to meet other people who are important to you. Not only will they be able to observe the dynamics between you, and may be able to give you advice if they see any areas for concern, but also their approval can help to solidify the connection. After all if this person Is going to be in your life, they will also be in the lives of your nearest and dearest too.
8. Be optimistic. It’s essential to be positive when you’re in a relationship. Focusing on the positive things doesn’t mean you should ignore your partner’s flaws, but it means that you should focus on the good parts of your relationship. Try to see the glass as half full, not half empty.
9. Speak to a therapist.If you think you find it very difficult to develop feelings which lead to love, it may be a good idea to speak to a therapist. A therapist can help you work through any issues you’re having. The benefits of speaking to a therapist:

• You’ll learn how to communicate effectively with your partner or potential partner.You’ll also learn how to identify negative patterns within yourself. Your therapist will provide you with practical tools to manage any anxieties or insecurities.
• You’ll learn how to deal with conflict healthily.You’ll also learn how to manage any jealousy or envy you might be feeling.
• You’ll get an outside perspective on your relationship. Your therapist will help you see your relationship from a different perspective.

8. Live in the present moment.One of the best pieces of advice is to live in the present moment. Focus on your life right now, practice gratitude, practice gratitude daily for all the wonderful things you have in your life, and the room you have for a partner to love. Try to enjoy every moment, don’t worry about what will happen tomorrow, next week, or next year. Just focus on today.

If you’re looking for ways to fall in love, these eight tips will help you get started. Remember to be yourself, be open to new experiences, and take time for yourself. Finally, don’t forget to enjoy the moment! So often, people focus on the future instead of enjoying the present moment, there and now.

Learning to fall in love with the present moment is one of the best things you can do for attracting more love in your life and for developing love in a relationship

Siobhan