Since I can remember I’ve been interested in relationships and people.
Some could say it is in my genes to want to help and empower people.
My Grandfather was an international motivational speaker in the 1980’s and my Grandmother was the go- to person to everyone for relationship advice and guidance, so much so she planned to write a book sharing all she had learnt on the subjects of love and intimacy.
Sadly, she passed away before she got to fulfil that dream.
I come from a line of broken relationships, both my grandparents’ relationships failed, and so did my parents.
Like most children I wondered why my parents couldn’t stay together, and aside from understanding they argued a lot, my curiosity went further.
I wanted to understand what makes people fall in love, and what am I to expect when I go out into the world looking for someone to love too?
As a teen I rebelled against my Christian upbringing in favour of exploring boys.
I was curious, wildly curious about what falling in love felt like, and how to get someone to love you back.
At first it seemed easy enough, although I had my first love disaster at 15, finding out my boyfriend had cheated on me with a younger girl. Resulting in the girl and her friends also physically attacking me for his affections.
I didn’t go to a regular school, it was pretty barbaric, with two thousand, mostly financially deprived, single parent families, from just about every culture in east London.
So, love for me from the start was tough, tough as going to school and trying to learn, while ducking or sometimes confronting bullies. There was no romantic notion of childhood sweethearts being formed.
Not without being labelled a slag, slut or any other negative connotation attached.
When I left school, I got into a relationship with a handsome guy, who was 4 years older, and already a father, I learnt a whole lot from that relationship.
The first year or so felt like game of cat and mouse, but when he finally committed he was all in, I got my first proposal at 18, but I knew I wasn’t ready to make that sort of lifelong commitment. Further to breaking up with him, I went in search for love again, and ended up in situations that weren’t healthy, I, like many young women went for the bad boys.
I mean really bad, the sort your mother would never want you bringing home.
But I saw the good in each of them and was almost blinded to the bad stuff they got up to.
I found myself addicted, these relationships would go on for years, in one case, over a decade.
When I found a guy who I thought was good marriage material, he ended up leaving me while I was in the midst of a breakdown, to marry someone else.
So, love hasn’t always been smooth sailing, but I take full accountability for how my previous love stories panned out.
I’ve have been on a journey of self- discovery answering the questions to my family members about what really happened in their relationships to make them fall apart?
Understanding my fear when it comes to committing and how my child hood impacts my thoughts and choices.
Identifying what drove me to get involved with men I knew deep down I had no future with?
How do and did I view myself?
Plus, I have read just about every subject on love and relationships to take the insights and knowledge of people around the world, to be able to share with others.
I’m passionate about helping people get into the right relationships, and about advocating the importance and need to be educated about relationships, and emotions early on, so the statistics of 50% of marriages ending in divorce can be reduced significantly. So less children are part of the statistic of being ‘from a broken family’.
The family unit Is integral to a well-rounded strong society. And people that are happy in their relationships, tend to be happier in general.
So, looking at ways that we can seek and create healthier partnerships, impacts society in countless ways.
You could even back up claims that it helps to combat mental health issues.
Loneliness and heartbreak have serious physical effects on our physical and mental health.
Heartbreak can lead to appetite changes, lack of motivation, weight loss or weight gain, overeating, headaches, stomach pain, and a general sense of being unwell. Depression, anxiety, and withdrawal from friends, family, and usual activities are some of the most common emotional reactions to heartache after a breakup.
Having overcome my own heartaches and heartbreaks
I am now happily in love, a mother, and have a partnership with someone who is not just my partner, but my best friend, and truly brings out the best in me. I am finally able to effectively communicate my thoughts and feelings, meet each other’s needs and make each other feel desired, valued, appreciated and secure.
My passion is to help guide people to making better relationship choices, whether that is recommending you meet people I have personally interviewed as a great prospective match, or whether its coaching to help you re-programme and make healthier decisions, or a combination of both. so you can feel the way you truly want to feel! I am ready to help you transform your love life starting today!